Why Adventurous Elopements Are the Best Way to Get Married
I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again: eloping isn’t shameful or selfish, it’s actually quite brave in my opinion. There are many reasons why I believe in eloping as the best option for so many couples. But, it’s more than just a good idea. Choosing to elope is brave because it’s not bowing to what the culture says is “right” or “acceptable.” Instead, you’re planning the elopement of your dreams without catering to cultural or even family pressures. Let’s dive a little deeper into a few reasons why I believe adventurous elopements are brave!!
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE weddings, and I believe so deeply in the beauty and sacredness of marriage. This is one of the many reasons why capturing weddings is literally what I DO! But, it doesn’t take long being in the wedding industry to see couples who seem to care more about the details of the day than the fact that they’re getting married.
So many couples focus more on this single-day event than the life-long relationship they are cultivating. Even though I’m not married, I’ve observed firsthand how these problems can begin with couples from day one. That’s one of the reasons why I see adventurous elopements as so valuable. They put the importance on the marriage itself from the start!
I don’t think there is necessarily a right or wrong way to get married. That’s the beauty of crafting your wedding day around the importance of the marriage itself–each event can look one of a kind! I love how every human is made so uniquely with different personalities and values! Seeing these expressed in all the little choices couples make (like choosing this beach elopement spot) for their day is the most beautiful thing to witness.
For some of you, having a huge party with tons of friends sounds like the MOST FUN thing ever. You can’t imagine a wedding without a party. That’s AWESOME, and I am absolutely stoked for you!!
But, to some of you, the planning and expectation of a big wedding feels more overwhelming than exciting. Our culture has put so much money into the wedding industry that it feels like you’re doing it “wrong” if you don’t want to plan the massive event.
Maybe you feel like you are disappointing people? Or that your friends and family won’t be supportive of your marriage if there isn’t a big wedding. Does this feel familiar?
If this is you, and you’re in a season of discouragement in planning, know that I see you. I can’t imagine what you must be feeling, but let me encourage you that your worth and value isn’t found in what people think you should do!
Plan out the wedding day of your dreams and whether it is a huge wedding or an elopement with just the two of you (and me!), just make sure it is the wedding of your dreams. This is the bravest thing you can do!